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Stepped on some toes, did I?
My, I seem to have stepped on some toes with my last commentary about Lily having no muscle tone. I think that's a very unfortunate physical state for any human being to be in.

And everything said about "fat acceptance" could also be said about "smoking acceptance" or "barebacking acceptance." The difference, that one must have food but one does not have a need for cigarettes or sex, doesn't fly. It means that making decisions is harder because the temptation is always there, but that doesn't alleviate the need to actually make decisions.

I'm a parent. I live in the United States. My child is confronted with a million temptations regarding what to put into her body and her mind. We don't exactly make it easy around here: advertisers make a profit off vices as well as virtues and bombard us all with thousands of messages every day about what is and is not tasty to eat, what is and is not fun to watch, or read, or hear. It is my responsibility-- and mine alone-- to teach her how to defend herself against these temptations. To provide both the right message and set the right examples about what to put into her body and her mind.

If my kid takes drugs, smokes, joins some wacked out cult, commits murder, I think it would be perfectly acceptable for others to look at me and ask if I did everything I could to prevent it, to teach her right. That's my responsibility. I'm going to do my damndest not to fail her.

And if she gets fat, the odds are high that it will not be genetic. Neither of her parents is heavy. If she makes it into adolescent without the habits of thought that make for a healthy diet and active life, yeah... that'll be my moral failing, too.

People can change. We don't accept from a driver, "Sorry I was speeding, judge; it's in my genes." Nobody would ever put forth that argument, either-- they'd never see their license again if the judge accepted it. We're all moral agents. We all have moral responsibilities. Some are harder to accept than others, and failings in the past can't be undone. But the future is not and is never set.

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jenk From: jenk Date: February 16th, 2003 06:28 pm (UTC) (Link)
And if she gets fat, the odds are high that it will not be genetic. Neither of her parents is heavy. If she makes it into adolescent without the habits of thought that make for a healthy diet and active life, yeah... that'll be my moral failing, too.

That makes sense.

My, I seem to have stepped on some toes with my last commentary about Lily having no muscle tone.

Probably because weight, and fitness, are hot-button topics for some people. If it was a bit less for my mom, for example, I might not have been put on diets starting at age 8 (when I was 20lbs over 'expected') and kept on them by physical force until age 12 (when I was 60lbs over) and guilted into continuing them until age 19 (when I was 120lbs over).

I quit dieting after nearly flunking out of college so I could put my studies first. My gpa became 4.0 and my weight stabilized for the first time ever. Funny, dontchathink?

I'm still fat. I do have muscle tone - it's hard to leg press 300 lbs without it ;) Accepting my fat may take some time off my life, but it's helped my sanity immensely.

Now, if, when I was a kid, my folks had added more fruits & veggies to the family meals - without making a big deal of it, or my weight - and encouraged me to continue in sports, say, and let me walk to the park when I wanted to, or even gone with me (instead of sitting in front of the TV saying that they're too tired, and I can't go alone because it's not safe) then I might be able to cope with the idea of going on a diet without wanting to put my fist through a wall.

And fewer people had experiences like mine, then you might not have stepped on any toes. ;)

Just my $0.02.
riverheart From: riverheart Date: February 16th, 2003 06:37 pm (UTC) (Link)
If she makes it into adolescent without the habits of thought that make for a healthy diet and active life, yeah... that'll be my moral failing, too.

OK, yeah, I can see that.

I *was* raised with those habits of thought. I also happen to look like where I come from on my father's side: Iowa farmers. The family tends to be healthy and long-lived, but not precisely California beach-trim thin.
From: (Anonymous) Date: February 16th, 2003 09:42 pm (UTC) (Link)

recent New Scientist artical on the above subject.

Interesting how you compare excessive food consumption with drug taking. I recall a recent New Scintist artical that discussed the changes in the brain due to excessive food consumption and how they compaired to that of addticive drugs.

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