Yes, I'm bisexual.
Part of my reluctance is because of something I've started to call the Bisexuality Miranda Warning, because everyone who writes "I'm bisexual" always follows up with some variant of this:
A bisexual isn't confused, in denial, or changing from one sexual orientation into another. A bisexual does not need to be with someone of each sex regularly in order to be happy. A bisexual is not greedy or oversexed.I cringe every time I read that because, dammit, I am greedy. I like sex. And from my college years onward, I more or less made it clear that I wasn't going to be constrained by anything more than the consent of others and a common decency for the health and well-being of all involved.
And yet, the Bisexual Miranda Warning's ubiquity makes me feel like I'm a bit of a criminal. That i'm not like you bisexuals who have put your names out there into the press. Because I'm not just pro-sex, I like it, and with a lot of other different people. It's one of my favorite hobbies, and I want to share it with other hobbyists.
I don't think I ever "came out"; I just was. I started at the height of the AIDS crisis, and I've managed to get this far disease-free by being a bit paranoid, being a bit loud, and being a lot straightforward about what I want.
This push to emphasize "bisexuals can be monogamous" has felt suspiciously like those who claim that what gays really wanted all along was the wedding, the house, the two-point-four children and the dog, trying to push those gays that don't embrace the married lifestyle into a closet. "Hush, you. For the sake of The Cause, you have the responsibility to stay silent."
No, I don't.
Tags: bisexuality, life, sexuality
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